See below a simple questionnaire that I often use to address bullying.
Circle the examples of bullying that have happened to you or seen happen to someone else.
- making hurtful comments
- sharing embarrassing or hurtful photos, videos, comments and/or messages
- impersonating another person online
Dealing with Bullies
Don’t Show Your Feelings
Bullies like to pick on people whom they can control. If a bully realizes that they can upset you, they’re more likely to keep coming back. Hide your feelings of sadness and anger until the bully is gone.
Bullies quickly grow bored with neutral responses. The key is to seem uninterested in what the bully has to say, without giving a reason to argue.
Bullying is common, happening every seven seconds to a child in the U.S. It reaches victims in school and online via social media apps and programs like Instagram, SnapChat, WhatsApp, Burn Note, Whisper, Yik Yak, and YouTube. Some apps are anonymous or enable messages to disappear after a period of time.
Facts About Bullying
- Both girls and boys can be bullies.
- Bullies target children who cry, get mad, or easily give in to them.
When Your Child is the Bully
If you know that your child is bullying others, take it very seriously. Now is the time when you can change your child’s behavior. In the long run, bullies continue to have problems. These problems often get worse. If the bullying behavior is allowed to continue, when these children become adults, they are much less successful in their work and family lives
and may even get in trouble with the law.
Keep communication constant, open, and honest: Talk about your own experiences and fears when you were an adolescent. Let them know that they are not alone, and their anxieties are not unique.